put a ring on it

"Although we adore men individually, we agree that as a whole they are rather stupid." -Mary Poppins

Not so much stupid...just complicated. Or maybe it's not men...maybe it's love that's complicated. How do you know when you're truly in love? How do you know when something that seems so wonderful will just...erupt? You try and try to pick up the ashes and collect the tattered pieces of a love you once knew but no matter what you do, you can't forget the explosion...you're torn. How do you know when you're giving up an oppertunity to be with the love of your life? You start to grow up, to realize a true reality that is harsher than any infatuation can possibly mask...but the burn from the red hot hurt still fires away at your heart...that's dramatic, I know. But so many of us feel it everyday.

It should be simple. It should be just like the hit Beyonce song, "if you like it then you should have put a ring on it." But it's not simple at all. The person you like never likes you, and there's always someone interested that you couldn't even imagine being with. But somehow, God places two people in the same place at the same time, and they find a perfect love together that only He could create...those people found it, why can't the rest of us?

Chasing love is possibly the stupidest thing a person can do. If you chase it, you'll chase it right down the dark alley of rejection, and you'll never find what you;re looking for. I guess we should let true love find us. It found me once...I'm hoping I'm not too lost and it can find me again.

In the meantime, we date around, figure out what we want in a a life partner, break a few hearts, shed a few tears, take a deep breath, and on to the next one. Isn't that just so exhausting? Hurting each other over and over again? We fall into infatuations only to find out that the feelings of lust and excitement are nowhere near as firey as we would like them to be...either on his side or yours. This is a great quote from the famous book (which EVERY GIRL NEEDS TO READ), He's Just Not That Into You:

He will always be able to play the "friend" card on you. He only has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than the the far greater expectations of a boyfriend. He's got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants to. He may be one of your closest friends, but I'm sorry to say ... as a boyfriend, he's just not that into you.

SO TRUE. And so sad. But as women, we want to be wanted. We want to be taken care of and obsessed over, making sure that the men in our lives appreciate us and want to constantly be around us. But if you press this issue, they'll run away...far, far away. So is the trick to pretend to not care? Should women just simply act apathetic towards the male race and turn the chase around? It is said that men love to chase women, and women love to be chased...so how come there are so many poor girls runnign after players all over the world? Can you say desperate? We should find men that want to chase us, that want us to be around them 24/7, not constantly obsess over the next text, tweet, facebook message, or any other insencere form of communication that the sick bastard might possibly send at 12 a.m. for a quick booty call. SO NOT WORTH IT.

I guess all we can do is love ourselves and those around us, and stop worrying about the stupid men that refuse to accept our affections. Why be desperate when you can be fabulous in your own world? Forget about him. Love your life. Don't worry about finding love, because it will find you...when you're ready. God knows when we're ready.

"Trust in the Lord, lean not on your own understanding..." Proverbs 5:3

Forgive, grow, love.
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